I am subscribed to about 500 blogs. I may not read them all, entirely (especially if they do not provide full feeds) but I do skim them all. Everyday. I don’t love all of these blogs. Some of them I actually hate. Some of them I subscribe to for “work” and others because everyone else subscribes to them – and if I don’t subscribe then I’m sort of out of the loop. I hate being out of the loop. Quite a few of the bloggers are very different from me – politically and socially. I tend to enjoy those bloggers the most. They’re interesting, even if they make me crazy with their opinions or their manner of presenting their opinions. Why am I telling you this? Because generally speaking, my tolerance for other points of view is pretty high. There is one thing I just cannot stomach…
“I need a wife.”
I really hate it when people say that. I really hate it when people blog that. I really hate it when people put that in an email.
“I need a wife” is usually followed by a laundry list of reasons why a wife would make this person’s life better. The items on the list are generally related to house work, cooking, managing children, laundry – you know, all of those things the patriarchy has insisted women are responsible for.
My tolerance for this type of blogging is so low that I unsubscribed from what is otherwise a fairly innocuous and sometimes helpful blog about blogging. A blog I’ve actually linked to in the past and one I’ve sent links from in an effort to help other people learn about blogging or improve their blogging.
I’m sure her post was intended to be amusing. To me it was just offensive – more offensive than being damned three times in the first paragraph by a conservative Christian blogger, (which is something I see every day – over and over again.) So offensive that I’ve unsubscribed.
Yet another reason why I love you so, no bullcrap!
I would have unsubscribed, too. That attitude/joke/whatever it was hits right at the core of so much sexist crap that it would boil my blood–not worth blogging tips or much else to me, either.
I’m curious–why did it hit you even harder than that disgusting “damning” post by the conservative Christian blogger?
Hmm I frequently put “house boy” on my Christmas list. Is that allowed?
As a former homeschoolee, I’m surprised you’ve managed to survive in that world this long. As I remember it, it was not a queer-positive context.
I could handle someone saying “I need a wife” if they don’t want to be alone, they want someone to snuggle with, they’re interested in having intelligent conversation while drifting off to sleep, etc. If they want a lifetime companion and believe strongly in not living together before being married. But not for chores.
Kudos for having the stomach to read conservative bloggers, I wish I could.
I think that was a good decision. There’s no need to add more traffic to sites that offend you.