August 2005

Daily Dose of Education – New Schools

All three of the small children started new schools on Monday. All three are attending “magnet” schools that are rather far away. His highness attends a middle school about 15 minutes from here and the girls attend an elementary school that is 20 minutes from here. The middle school has a pretty wide range of kids, in terms of economic and social status but the girls’ elementary school is, well, it is in a minority neighborhood and the majority of students are minority. The magnet students have classes in one building, not in the same building with the “neighborhood kids”. Some of the magnet classes do join the “neighborhood” for specials like PE, Music, etc… There are soooo many things to say about this that I just can’t even start. So instead, I’ll tell you two little stories that were shared by the girls after day one.

RJ is in 4th grade and when TW said “what happened in school today,” RJ said “There was a crime scene at school and there was an outline of a dead body!” It’s hard to know what the right thing to say is when your child makes this announcement on day one at her new school, ya know? TW seemed to manage ok because after a bit more of RJ rambling about this, it turns out this was an actual school activity. No, they didn’t kill anyone in the name of education. It was an observation/detective work type activity of some sort. No real crime, that we know of, was committed. Although, I personally find it troubling that they chose this particular activity for this particular group of kids in this particular school. I am afraid I’m going to have some difficulty keeping my social and class issues to myself…

Then, on the way to school this morning, E (who is in 2nd grade) said that her teacher told her that one year she had a student who would scream and yell and cry and crawl under the tables when she did not get her way. And the teachers finally figured out how to handle that. They discovered that if they quickly shoved something in her mouth, she would stop pitching a fit. Ummm, huh? TW and I were both quiet for a moment. Again, what to say… I asked, “what exactly did they shove into her mouth?” E said, “food!” Oh thank goodness, the light bulb went off and I said BLOOD SUGAR, it was her BLOOD SUGAR. Sheesh.

These kids, I swear they will be the death of me. Or maybe it is this school. We didn’t have these issues with Mrs F…

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Vanishing Acts


I’ve been a Jodi Picoult fan since the days of women.com. Kyra wandered onto a board one day and talked and talked and talked about The Pact. She talked so much about it that I went out and bought it in hardback and read it immediately. I’ve been hooked ever since on Picoult. (And I still own that hardback of The Pact and think of Ky every time I see it on the shelf.)

Vanishing Acts is not my favorite of Picoult’s library of family/relationship fiction. It’s pretty low on the list now that I think about it. I tend to enjoy Picoult telling the story from various points of view but this time none of the characters seem to see a single flaw in Delia (the woman who discovers her father kidnapped her from her mother when she was a child). Nobody is perfect, except Delia.

I saw some reviews that suggested the scenes from jail were too long and too violent and a distraction from the rest of the story. I didn’t feel that way at all. If those were glossed over and all was fine and dandy in prison, I’d have found that pretty unbelievable, ya know?

I wonder, did Picoult really need to add the scene where she “loses” her own child? Or toss in the “disclosure” from Andrew on the witness stand? Just a little too much, I think.

If you are a Picoult fan, you won’t really be sorry to read this. But, if you haven’t read any of her novels then I recommend you try My Sister’s Keeper or The Pact first.

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Childrens Books – Heir to the Throne

I realized just now that I might need to somehow keep track of books I’m buying for my nephew , otherwise known as “heir to the throne”. So, I think I’m going to track that in this blog too. (And if you have ideas for great children’s books, share them. I particularly am interested in non-mainstream or often overlooked books.)

So far here’s what we’ve sent:
Pat the Bunny (because it was my sister’s favorite book)
On the Day You Were Born (because TW has some weird fondness for it. I do not.)
My Good Night Book and My Good Morning Book because these were my children’s favorites)
Babies (another of my children’s favorites)


I am considering, for this Christmas, Everyone Poops and The Gas We Pass. What do you think?

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Mass Murderers & Teen Sleuths

It was a slow reading week for me but would have been slower if it hadn’t been for the car service fiasco. Work has been a little busy, moderators on vacation and such, and blogging has been even busier.

I skipped over a large stack of books that TW has already read in favor of Dearly Devoted Dexter. I was more excited about the release of the second Dexter than I was about Harry Potter and it did not let me down.

We discovered Darkly Dreaming Dexter last year, right before we headed to Miami for a cruise. It was amusing to drive down along the docks of Miami and see all of those metal storage containers that played such a large role in Darkly Dreaming.

Dexter is a bad bad guy. He’s not even really human. But he looks human and most people find him pretty charming. Women seem to fall at his feet and he’s not sure what to do about that. What he’d rather do is let his “dark passenger” take over and just KILL. But, he doesn’t…unless a really really BAD person comes along. Preferably one who is not nice to children, that’s Dexter’s preferred victim.

The Dexter books manage to be funny and gruesome at the same time, but not in the way a Christopher Moore slasher novel would be. It’s hard to explain, you just have to read it for yourself and find out.


After Dexter, I grabbed the next book from the library stack with a quickly approaching return date and that just happened to be Confessions of a Teen Sleuth. What a switch from Dexter to a grown up Nancy Drew! Ha!

I was a huge Nancy Drew fan as a kid. I’d use my allowance every weekend to buy a new Nancy Drew book and finish it within a couple of hours. Then I’d beg my mom or dad to take me to Sam Solomon’s (which was closer than the bookstore and a place my parents seem to like pretty well so it seemed like a good shot…) and get them to buy me another one – because I was bored and I neeeeeeded to read another and another and another. I didn’t read them all, I got sidetracked by adult novels or something – I’m blaming The Female Eunuch because I know I read that around the same time as I was reading the last of my Nancy Drews. Germaine Greer, DAMN YOU!

OK back to this little “parody”, it was ok. Not great. I like the gay girl version better but it had it’s amusing moments. Nancy and Frank Hardy and their love child that grew up thinking he was Ned’s child. Ha! Very amusing, indeed.

I’m about to pick up a book by another of my favorite authors but I’ll tell you about that in a couple of days…

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Reading in Bed…

I use to hate to read in bed. I’m not exactly sure how that changed, but it has. TW and I spend a lot of time in our eclectic bedroom with my even more eclectic quilt reading and reading and reading. Lately we’ve been spending more time blogging and blogging and blogging but I doubt that will ever take the place of reading real live books.

I’ve been trying to find a good way to keep track of the books we read. I tried writing in a cool notebook that our friend LJ discovered but that didn’t work so well. I tried keeping amazon lists but that didn’t work well either because amazon listmania doesn’t always work so well. TW started a special blog for tracking books but the software was always down and it constantly took away my right to post a new dog gone entry so I gave that up really quickly.

The sassy monkey mentioned a blog for books recently and I told her I’d been thinking of doing one. She said do it, so I’m doing it. Surely this will work better than the other things we tried, right?

So, on with the books…

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Daily Dose of Coffee – Money

These are two of our regular baristas and we like them. It took awhile for the boy to grow on us but he has, now that he’s not too shy to talk to us. I think we have almost talked him into blogging so stay tuned for that… 😉

But the point of this post isn’t to talk about our favorite baristas (or least favorite) I’ve got two other things to ramble about and both involve money. But hey, anytime you talk about Starbucks money is in the back of your mind isn’t it?

As you may know, TW and I stop at Starbucks every morning for Quad Venti Caramel Macchiatos and unfortunately they’re skim too but I try to forget that as often as possible. (For you non-Starbucks people, quad means 4 shots of espresso. Venti is the largest size, it’s 24oz and I’m not going to explain Starbucks’ version of the macchiato because if you don’t know then you’re living on Mars and there are no Starbucks on Mars at this time and I don’t really like to torture anyone except his highness, J.)

I love my morning visit to Starbucks. I love my baristas. I love the fact that they know exactly what I want before I order and I love making new baristas nervous by reminding them that when you make a CM you do not pour the shot straight into the freaking cup. It’s fun. I enjoy seeing the others who are as addicted as I am. I love seeing the unusual people who wander in and puzzle over the menu. The troubling part of this school year, which starts on Monday, is trying to figure out how we’re going to be able to go to Starbucks without having to buy little kids coffee or hot chocolate every morning and drag them in with us and stuff.

Part of me was thinking we’d just skip Starbucks on the mornings that we had the kids. It would be a good way to save some money, right? But then the Hello Dollar! dude had to go and make me growly by reminding me how much money we spend there every year. I’m feeling like some teen kid whose mom has just explained why something is not a good idea, I just want to do it even MORE now.

Who cares if I take that $55 a week and put it in the bank and it turns into $3,019.26 (with interest)? I NEED MY STARBUCKS before work more than I need $3,019.26 a year right? Who cares if I’ve been seriously stressing over our debt for a year, if we don’t spend that on Starbucks we won’t save it, we’ll spend it on something else, won’t we?

Yes, we have a nice Starbucks coffee pot. I brew Gazebo in it everyday. We’ve got a nice Starbucks espresso machine too but we never use it. It takes too much work and it is not nearly as much fun as teasing college kids wearing their crummy Starbucks hats and cute little aprons. There’s no community standing around the espresso machine in my kitchen, ya know?

Life is hard.

And now that I’ve actually said life is hard and all I’m doing is thinking about how I might not get my Quad Venti Caramel Macchiato a few days a month I’m feeling like a hypocrite because there are kids in this world who don’t have clean water.

Starbucks is working on that problem by donating 10 million over five years from the sale of ethos water sold in their stores. (I’m buying a bottle tomorrow, I swear!!!)

Jay Winston over on the Huff Po blog doesn’t think this is good enough. (Has he pledged to donate $10 million of his earnings in over 5 years to the clean water cause??? Has he pledged any?) He seems to think that Starbucks would do better to encourage its customers to buy coupons for a dollar or five dollars to donate to the cause. He seems to think this would raise more than five million. I think he’s wrong. This may not be the BEST campaign but it’s better than some dumb “buy a ticket” campaign

I hate it when people ask me if I want to contribute a dollar to this cause or that at the grocery store or at Shoney’s or like they did today at Petsmart. I just don’t contribute to causes that way. And I don’t think the majority of Starbucks customers in this college town do either. Tomorrow when I head into my Starbucks I’m going to ask the baristas what they think but I bet they’d hate having to push tickets on people. Heck, they hate having to ask people if they’d like a pastry with their drink.

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Daily Dose of Books – Meme

Profgrrrrl posted this little Book Meme. I’m amused that I got Animal Farm. I’m an Orwell fan, much to Michelle’s chagrin since I made her read 1984 last year (and watch the movie, too). As much as I like this “hopelessly idealistic to tragically jaded” and agree that it is ME, I’m sort of sad that I didn’t get Lolita. I miss my “old image” sometimes. 😉



You’re Animal Farm!
by George Orwell

You are living proof that power corrupts and whoever leads you will
become just as bad as the past leaders. You’re quite conflicted about this emotionally and waver from . Ultimately, you know you can’t trust pigs. Your best moments are when you’re down on all fours.


Take the Book Quiz
at the Blue Pyramid.

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Daily Dose of Health – Podcasts

Nancy White linked us to Kim and Todd Maffins’ MS Podcast Blog. I’m listening to one now and it’s very well done.

Multiple Sclerosis is neurological disease that involves the brain, spinal cord and optic nerves. I’ve spent quite a bit of time talking to people who have MS or are awaiting a diagnosis of MS. (It’s not always easy to diagnose) There’s no cure at this time and there isn’t much known about what causes MS either.

If you know someone who has MS or if you’d like to learn more about it, I would definitely recommend you listen to these and check out Kim’s blog, Mandatory Rest Period as well. Good stuff here. (not to mention a great community indicator!)

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Daily Dose of Life – Cars

Let me tell you about my yesterday and how glad I am that it is my yesterday and not my today. Yesterday stunk. And this is much longer than my preferred three paragraphs but I don’t particularly care, ya know?

I got up with the alarm at 6:10am, which is really 6am because my clock is screwy and it’s some funky travel clock that TW bought in the airport a few years ago to replace my old Korean Air travel alarm clock that I loved until it died and I hate changing the time or the alarm on it. I’m never sure I’ve done it just right, which is ridiculous because it’s just not that hard but whatever.

I turned on the computer, grabbed the smiley coffee cup with an inch of coffee left in it from the night before and nuked it for 30 seconds. Fed the dogs, fed the cats and sat down to drink the coffee and read email. Thank goodness for webcrossing and their email digests! I posted some morning posts on message boards, read the news feeds in my aggregator, let the dogs in and checked to see if there was another inch of coffee lurking in the pot from the day before. There wasn’t. Typical morning, except for the no coffee part.

By then it was 7:10 and I headed to the bedroom where I found TW still asleep. I suggested she get up since we leave to take her to work at 7:30. She moaned and murmured she wasn’t going to work, she was sick. I sighed and sat on the floor contemplating how TW at home might change my day. The biggest issue was lack of coffee. No regular morning trip to Starbucks was going to happen and I had no beans to grind! I figured she wasn’t up for any grand gestures that would totally disrupt the day. (I was right)

I sighed, got dressed and grabbed Dexter and the keys and headed toward the Subaru dealer to leave Babe for his 90,000 mile check up (he’ got 102,000 on him lol) and to get the clock fixed and have them figure out what’s causing the road noise in the back of the vehicle.

I got there at 8 on the dot and was told the courtesy shuttle had just left but would be right back. Right, I figured it would be 9 before I was picked up and sat down to read. I’d only read about 3 pages when I was called to the shuttle – cool! This was shaping up to be a great day. Just me and the shuttle driver, or so I thought. Turns out another dude was going to drive a vehicle over to the glass shop and we’d have to go there as well so the guy could ride back in the shuttle. No problem, it’s on the way. But we get there and the parking lot is filled with the Blood Donor bus and lots of maneuvering and cursing ensued about how to get the car that needed the glass repair in there. Why would they park that blood donor bus there? No street traffic and the place is just not big enough to warrant an employee blood drive. Weird.

No sooner do they get the car into the parking lot and they discover the windshield that needs to be installed isn’t in the vehicle! So, we drive back to the dealer which is still not a big deal because it’s only 8:25 or so. I’m still ahead of schedule. I’m reading my book again and the driver comes back and says it will be a minute, h’s got a kid to drop off over by my house but he needs to get his bag. I quickly realize that when he said kid he really meant kid.

I hear a mom and a kid arguing about which is the right bag and a lot of mom fussing about hurrying up and what are you doing in there and then a 10 year old boy jumps in.
Before the driver could get the door shut, the kid is jumping out again – to give his mom a kiss. Aweeeeee (weird but still an aweeee moment). The kid’s mom is the manager and he’s heading to golf camp. And he sits behind me making odd noises which were amusing because it was still only 8:45 and I’d be home by 9. Still earlier than I had expected!

The morning passes relatively well. TW slept and I worked. I started some more laundry, cleaned up the dirty towels from the little kids’ bathroom that they’d left there two weeks ago and hid E’s birthday gifts which had been sitting in the living room for a week. And, my 40lb surprise from TW arrived! Yea!

Kids arrive at 2 on the dot. Dogs didn’t eat their step mother (which is good but also a shame, if you know what I mean). J is immensely pleased with the COOL chain he got for his flute and I was successful in showing some enthusiasm as well. E was excited about her Lisa Frank lunchbox and I did a fair job of not showing my true feelings about it (that is the ugliest thing I’ve ever seen in my entire life!).

Life is moving along nicely when the phone rings from the dealership. We need a new clock and the road noise is actually a busted wheel bearing. Do I want them fixed, parts are in stock? I started to say can I schedule an appointment, thinking it is 3:30 and how will they ever do that by 5:30? But she says they can definitely go ahead and do it today and she can have the shuttle pick me up at 4:30 and I may have a little wait but it would be done. So, I agree.

I shut down the computer at 4:10 and head out with my next book (Dexter was finished earlier in the day during a lunch break) to wait for the shuttle. Arrive at the dealership at 4:40 and am told they are done and just test driving. At 5:15 I go out to the service bay and ask if my car got lost during the test drive or what??? She says oh it’s done, let me pee and I’ll write up the bill. Ooooooooooook. 5 minutes later I’ve paid a whopping $1200 for the 90,000 mile service, the clock and the wheel bearing and I’m looking for my car which she had said was being pulled up. Well there it was at the end of the bay being vacuumed. The dude had forgotten to do that and the manager sent him back to do it right. (ha, last time we had it serviced, they didn’t vac it either). So I wait and wait. The guy finally finishes and tries to drive through the bay straight to me but realizes there are actual cars there and that won’t work. Soooooooo he backs all the way out and drives up around the outside. I jump in happy to be on the way home. I wonder what time it is and look up to where the nicely installed new clock should be and the clock is ummm dead.

I back up, get out, and march into the service bay to explain that this nice new clock that cost me $130 to have put in isn’t actually ummm working. The nice girl says she’ll grab a technician. Unfortunately the Subaru technicians are gone and all I’ve got is a nice Chrysler tech. He checked the fuses and finds the cigar lighter (really that’s what he called it) is dead. But that’s it and it doesn’t help the clock. So he looks for a screw to remove the clock and realizes the screw he’s just taken out actually removes the top compartment and that’s not helpful. He runs for more tools and comes back and pries it out thinking maybe they got in a hurry and didn’t actually plug it in. No, it’s plugged in. By this time I notice that this clock face is really smudged and looks like it has caramel macchiato on it. I mention that to the guy and he says “hmmm is that what that is?” I said “Yes but wouldn’t that be odd since this is suppose to be a new clock?” “Are you sure they didn’t just order you the part?” I showed him my papers and he said “No, looks like this is a new clock, maybe they just transferred your caramel macchiato smudges for you”. Ha. The guy is nice and funny but by then I am ticked.

I head into the service bay and they want me to bring the car back tomorrow to solve this. Ha, that won’t work, Friday is meet the teacher day. I’m seriously grouchy by then and she says she’ll just order me another new clock and when it comes in she’ll call and they’ll put it in while I watch. Ha, great. I could put the freaking thing in myself I’ve now watched the guy take it out and put it in three times already. Whatever.

I get back in the car and head for home. Happy that at least there is no more noisy back-end but looking at that dead clock and feeling totally defeated. I hate going to the dealer for car repairs. It’s TW’s thing to do that and I’m not doing it anymore, ever again. Well except to get this damn clock that I’ve already paid for and to drop off my nasty customer comment card. I’ll enjoy that part of my next visit.

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Daily Dose of Health – Podcasts

Kerry and her boyfriend Jackie, from Webgrits, launched their first Crohn’s podcast on Monday! TW and I listened to it last night and I’m going to write a mini-review (in hopes of encouraging you all to listen to it and all future installments)!

As some of you know, TW has Ulcerative Colitis which is not Crohn’s but the two have a lot in common. So much in common that pretty much anyone with an interest in learning more about UC or anyone who has UC would find the podcast interesting, amusing, helpful and encouraging. Especially, people newly diagnosed or the friends and family of those diagnosed.

Kerry’s voice (and I don’t mean the cute southern accent) comes across well in the podcast. She sounds like a real person talking about her illness and while she obviously didn’t just turn on the mic and start talking (she talked about dehydration), she sounded real. I liked it.

Jackie, however, was definitely scripted during his piece about talking a loved one out to dinner (don’t do it!!!! lol). I didn’t mind the scripted bit but I enjoyed him a lot more when he put down the script and just talked to Kerry. I think being nervous for the first podcast was part of that scripted bit and I’d love it if he’d ignore the script and just talk. He’s obviously been through a lot with Kerry and he’s a personable guy (and obviously very sweet and sensitive). I bet in another podcast or two that will shine through and we won’t think about the script as much as we did in this first one.

So, there you have it. My initial review – a solid A for anyone interesting in Crohn’s or Colitis. I’m totally looking forward to the next installment.

And because I’m doing a little experiment I’m going to talk about how Kerry’s podcast and my post about it are community indicators. (Bear with me folks, if you have no interest in such things just ignore this part, ok?)

TW and I “met” Kerry and Jackie (and Kerry’s brother, Wes) when we stumbled into the Blogathon 2005 website. Finding someone on a blog talking about UC or Crohn’s isn’t easy even though IBD effects an awful lot of people. It was terrific to find them! Since then, we’ve corresponded via blog and by email. We’ve found people who can really relate to our situation even though we’re really not all that much alike in other ways. Kewl!

Finding those “like us” and “not like us” and then doing more than just reading and lurking in the background means we’ve become a visible indicator of community. And if Kerry chooses, she can use tools to track how many people she’s touching, how many people are in her community who aren’t actually talking to her. She can use site traffic tools, counters and yes even technorati to figure out that somebody is listening and linking and visiting. Those somebodies are her community, even if they never comment or email her or even really talk about her on their blogs. Right?

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