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Daily Dose of Music – Random 10

From the morning drive…


1) Zombie – Cranberries

2) Bring Me Some Water – Melissa Etheridge

4) Good Man, Good Woman – Bonnie Raitt (and who is the man, I always forget…)

4) Theme From Sesame Street

5) Spam – Save Ferris

6) I know you know love – Susan Cowsill

7) I Give Up – Melissa Ferrick

8) The World is New – Save Ferris

9) The Way You Found Me – Ben Harper

10) Outside the Rain – Stevie Nicks


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Daily Dose of Pet Peeves – Moonstruck Chocolate

I have this little pet peeve and I was reminded of it again when I ordered a present for my mom (at the last minute) for Mother’s Day.  My pet peeve is webpage title lines that do not apply to the webpage you’re actually reading.  (The title line is the very top most part of your browser, probably a blue bar, next to the icon of the type of browser you are using.  If you’re on my blog, that title line says Daily Dose of Denise – if you’re in a specific post, it says Daily Dose of Denise: Daily Dose of ______) 

A lot of websites use a generic title line, it stays static through the site, regardless of what page you’re on.  That’s ok with me, as long as it isn’t in some way misleading.  For instance, I don’t mind if every page I’m on at Amazon just says Amazon.com.  I don’t mind if I’m at WebMD  and all of the pages just say WebMD.  (Neither of these sites have a static title line, I’m just saying – I don’t mind when sites do this.)

I do, however, mind a static title line if it is misleading to me because it is not representative of the page I am on.  Let’s pretend I’ve been watching a lot of TV and I’m really falling in love with the Toyota Yaris (I’m not watching a lot of tv nor in love with this car, I do like the commercials though).   I am bored at work and decide to go and look at them on the Toyota webpage.  Imagine I click the Toyota Yaris icon and the title line changes to Toyota.com – Hybrid Vehicle.  Ummm the Yaris is not a Hybrid but I, knowing not much about cars might assume that it is.  I might base my buying decision on this, get to the dealer and find out that it is not a Hybrid after all.   Bummer and it would really annoy me – maybe so much that I decided not to buy that Yaris after all.  Maybe so much that I wouldn’t buy any car from them at all.  (Luckily, Toyota does not have this type of misleading web design so my Prius lust is safe.)

Moonstruck Chocolate, on the other hand does, sort of. 

TW was surfing some very pretty chocolates, just a few days before Mother’s Day.  I asked her where she was surfing and quickly made my way to Moonstruck Chocolates.  See that pretty pink chocolate handbag?  See the browser title line?  It says "Moonstruck Fine Chocolate Truffle Gourmet Gifts".  That’s cool!  I like that.  I’ll click in and see what they have!  So I click the pretty pink purse.  (Pink purses are not my mom’s thing,  maybe they have something else….)  I’m on the Chocolate Couture page and the title line now says "Unique Chocolate Gifts, gourmet chocolate gifts".  Excellent.  I scroll down and I see these adorable flower pots.  Yes! Totally my mom’s thing.  I click and look up there at the title line, it now reads "Gourmet Chocolate Truffle, Unique Dark Chocolate Gift"!  OMG excellent my mom loves dark chocolate!  I click and I order and I’m done. 

Two days later, my mom calls me to exclaim about how gorgeous these things are!  She wants to know all about them but isn’t ready to eat them yet because she wants to share them with Ken.  I tell her I thought she’d like them and they’re dark chocolate! So enjoy! 

She calls me back on Sunday to thank me – they’re awesome but ummm they aren’t dark chocolate.  What? Huh?  I go to the webpage and I still see the subject line.  It says dark chocolate! Did I screw up and miss the place where I had to indicate the type?  No.  Alas.  The description on the product clearly says milk chocolate.  Sigh.  I was in a hurry.  I read the title line because it appeared before the images.  I saw the pretty picture and I ordered.  My fault.  But still.  The title line lured me in.  If it hadn’t said dark chocolate, I’d have read the real description and I’d have kept clicking on the site til I found dark chocolate.

I wrote to Moonstruck.  I thanked them for the very pretty chocolate that my mom enjoyed, because she did.  It was good.  But I also suggested they change the title line in the browser because it was misleading.  I did not ask for a refund.  I was not rude.  I simply pointed out that I was misled and would not like to see that happen to someone else.

Moonstruck’s rep emailed me back and needed me to describe what I was seeing because she was not seeing this title line.  I explained browsers and I sent a screenshot.  Her reply to this  sent me over the edge:

Thank you for your reply.  We appreciate your emails and the comments you mentioned.  We have again reviewed the site and pages in detail and do not see anything mentioning Dark Chocolate when referring to the Flower Pots.   The browser bar description is not referring to our flower pots and would most likely be displayed whether you were looking at our chocolate flower pots or boxed assorted chocolate collections, etc.  The verbiage does not come from Moonstruck Chocolate but from our web browser.

Ummm hello.  The verbiage does change from page to page.  It isn’t static all of the way through. And, more to the point – What do you mean it doesn’t come from Moonstruck Chocolate?  This is your page.  You own it.   

I didn’t want a refund.  It was MY fault for trusting the title line and not reading the description very carefully.  My mom did, enjoy the chocolate.  What I wanted was a thank you for bringing that to our attention and I’m sorry if this caused you to order a product you might otherwise not have ordered.  Even just a thanks for bringing this to our attention would have been FINE.  I would have blogged about the good tasting, pretty chocolate that was inexpensive (inexpensive being a relative term).  And I would have ordered from there again and again and again.

Now.  I’m not. 

If you run a web-based company and your title lines are misleading and misrepresentative of your product or your site then change them.  Or own up to the fact that you MIGHT be misleading people.  Do not tell me this is not your problem. Goodbye Moonstruck, it was not so nice knowing you. 

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Booking Through Thursday

Finally! One I wanted to do!


Booking Through Thursday

  1. What are the last five books that you finished reading? Odd Girl Speaks Out (Rachel Simmons) The Egg & I (Betty McDonald), Rose of No Man’s Land (Michelle Tea), Pitching My Tent (Anita Diamont), Carolina Isle (Jude Deveraux)
  2. How long did it take you to read them? 8 days worth of reading
  3. Did you enjoy reading these books? Why or why not? Odd Girl Speaks Out and Carolina Isle, not so much. The Egg & I was ok. Pitching My Tent I could recommend. Loved Rose of No Man’s Land. Why? Why not? Scroll through the blog and find out!




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Daily Dose of Coffee – Presents

Yesterday was "Beaning Day" aka our anniversary (for those of you who prefer things "normal").  The reason it is known as "Beaning Day" is TW presented me with a gold coffee bean charm to honor the occasion of official coupledom.  (We aren’t into that gay marriage thing, in case you didn’t know that) 

The gold coffee bean was presented to me four years ago and every year on Beaning Day I am given some gift or another, generally a coffee bean related gift.  I believe last year I was given a mobile made out of a couple of sticks, some fishing line and real coffee beans (spray painted I think, though in the dark office it is hard to tell and I’m not good at remembering those sorts of things.  TW is the marshmallowy romantic around here).  E calls it the flying coffee bean because in the dark office, you can’t see the string so it looks like the beans are just hanging in the air.

Yesterday, TW gave me a candy bar.  Hershey’s Caramel Cappucino Very amusing since I’m not really a fan of chocolate.  (FYI it wasn’t all that great.  The first bite, I liked.  After that, not so much.  I saved a piece for her and she didn’t like it at all.)  The candy bar was nice and made me laugh but that wasn’t the only gift.  She’d been griping about "fonts" for awhile for my "Beaning Day" present so I figured it was another webpage or a poem or a card or something. 

So 7:30am arrives and we’re heading to Starbucks on the way to take her to work.  She gets out of the car and I see she has her backpack slung over her shoulder.  I said ummm why are you carrying your backpack into Starbucks.  She blushed and giggled and I refused to go INTO Starbucks because obviously she was about to make some sort of huge production about Beaning Day IN STARBUCKS.  She put her backpack back in the car but pulled a piece of paper out of the bag.  I still refused to go in.  She swore it wouldn’t be "bad".  I grudgingly followed.  Griping all the way.  Griping while ordering.  I see her talking to the barista and I griped some more.

I’m standing at the side counter, in my normal spot.  Griping.  Waiting for whatever it is. Griping.  When I notice the cup in front of the barista looks funny.  Ha!  Cup #524!  Ha! Very very amusing!  TW created The Way I See It #524, put it on a label and had the barista put the label on the cup.  Cup #524 is very marshmallowy and very very amusing.  I’m soooo lucky.  How many women have a Starbucks cup created just for them? 

It was a nice Beaning Day.

And since  I’m here talking about coffee, I think I’ll toss in a mini review of the Bloggers Fuel coffee we tried last weekend, Blogs of Bravery .  It wasn’t nearly as good as the New Media Mavericks but Nurse Pam (who I generally think has excellent taste) seemed to like it.  It wasn’t bad, it just wasn’t great and I wouldn’t order it again.  This weekend, Bloggers Beach Blast!   

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Daily Dose of Queer Republicans

Well, I listened to the Dr Helen/Instapundit podcast with Mary Cheney.  I wasn’t impressed.  I’m very glad I didn’t break down and order Cheney’s book when I discovered it wasn’t available at my library.  I’m not anti-gay-marriage republican, I live with one of those ya know.  I’m not pro-gay marriage, either, so I thought I might actually agree with something Mary Cheney had to say.  Or I might even appreciate her point of view.  I did agree that "there are many, many points of views regarding gay marriage".  I didn’t agree with anything else she said and I felt like she was still just giving the party line – like there was no real passion behind what she said – except maybe at the end, when she talked about her mother.  Maybe.

She and Dr Helen think it’s a shame democrats spend so much time talking about whether you’re gay or you aren’t gay.  She and Dr Helen think it isn’t important to talk about such things or acknowledge such things.  They think it just doesn’t matter if you’re gay.  They would be right – except the extreme right cares.  The extreme right cares so much that they don’t want to acknowlege gay people at all.   It’s don’t ask/don’t tell to the extreme.

Mary Cheney talked about how great her parents were when she came out.  I think that’s terrific.  Unfortunately neither of her parents have been very forthcoming with that information which leads a great many conservatives to believe they should not behave the way Mary says her parents behaved.  People learn from example Ms Cheney.  People learn acceptance by seeing it modeled.  They don’t learn it by having it swept aside, by pretending it isn’t necessary or the need doesn’t exist.   Your father hugged you and told you he loved you when you came out.  Good for you.  Wouldn’t it be nice if he felt comfortable saying that out loud, to everyone in the world?  Wouldn’t it be nice if your father, that great role model in your life, and your mother the even greater role model in your life, stepped up to the plate and became role models for an entire country?  Wouldn’t it have been terrific if you’d said that 8 years ago?  It would have been.  But now, it just feels hollow.  Maybe even untrue. Maybe just a little bit like politics.

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Daily Dose of Blogrolls

I have blogroll angst.  This isn’t some new angst that has snuck up on me.  It’s the same old angst, very similar to the angst related to "favorite links" pages in the good old days of "personal home pages".  Who do you link? Where do you link them? Why do you link them?  What happens if you decide not to link them? And, geez, why even bother with this madness?  I look at my blogroll and it’s either boring me to tears because it’s looked this way forever or I have left out someone who should be linked there or it’s just too darn unmanageable and messy and … angst.   

I thought that if I put "update blogroll" on my 101 things list I’d be able to let some of that angst go.  No more really stale blogroll, right?  Wrong.  I’ve updated it.  And updated it.  And updated it.  I got annoyed and pulled most of it down and put up links to the Blogher topic areas and the cute little Technorati favorite blogs widget.  I thought that would reduce my angst.  Nope, I think I have more angst about it. 

Along comes my hero, (and yours), Nancy White and she drops a mini bombshell… she’s thinking about getting rid of her blogroll completely! Wah! No! She can’t!  Umm wait, why can’t she?

Well she can’t because I often peruse her blogroll and find really interesting online community blogs that I either would never have found before or would have taken me time that I don’t have to search out – which means, I would never have found them because I’m too busy to do my own searching.  Nancy’s blogroll is my tool!  If it’s gone, I lose a valuable tool.  And, it’s all about me.  It’s also all about other people who I know use Nancy’s blogroll in much the same way.  It’s community building, darn it. 

But that’s really not enough of a reason, probably.  I don’t have the type of blogroll Nancy does but I do know a lot of people click the blogs on my blogroll.  I peek at the out clicks once a week and the "new discoveries" in particular get a lot of clicks.  If my new discoveries section disappeared, would I be participating actively in creating a community of bloggers?  Questions, questions, questions.

I’ve been asking myself some blogroll related questions and I posed them to Nancy.  She has replied so I’m going to answer the questions too.  I would love it if others who have blogroll angst could answer or could respond or could add your two cents.  If you have solved your blogroll issues, I’d love to hear your solution.  It may not work for me, but I’m interested anyway.  It’s my sort of "thing".

1) why do you have a blogroll? Duh, that’s what bloggers do!  That is exactly why I created a blogroll to start with.  It was very small, maybe 5 blogs that I adored and 5 links to other websites.  That was it.  But then, it grew.  Because I fell in love with more blogs and more bloggers.  I want people to look at my blog and see those blogs linked as an extension of me.  They are part of me, in some way.  A reflection of who I am and what is important or confusing or special to me.

2) what do you hope to gain or provide by having a blogroll and is that working for you?  I’ve gained a few things, I think, from the blogroll.  See that first part.  People can look at my blogroll (or they could before I ditched it in favor of technorati and blogher) and see something about me.  They could click away, to other blogs and I hope they would understand that those people are important to my life.  I learn from them, am entertained by them and sometimes worry over them.  The second part, that’s the tougher part.  Does anyone even look at blogrolls anymore?  Do you see my favorite blogs over there and see them as an extension of me or as important in my world?  Probably not.  And that’s the real problem.  They’re like banner ads or text ads or simply too darn big to really be useful.

3) why are you thinking about doing away with it?  Too big.  Too unmanageable.  Or not inclusive enough or simply not worth the space they are taking up because people don’t seem to really look at them anymore.

4) what would you do instead? (if anything) That’s the thing – I don’t know.  Nancy mentions linking to faves in blog entries and I’m all for that but who has time?  And, it’s sooo easy to write a blog, link to one of the same 6 bloggers over and over and over again.  I don’t want to fall into that sort of a trap.  I also don’t want to leave my favorite, top 6, out.  Ya know?  (I’m interested in Grazr.  It’s been on my list of things to look at but haven’t.  I’ve considered sticking my feed link up there but I don’t think enough people are interested in clicking those at this point.  Too many people don’t even understand what RSS is much less have a reader…)

5) you care about community and providing link love, I know you do, so how can you let go of that blogroll and still provide the love?  See the first answers to figure this one out.  The blogroll is all about community for me.  I link to those I love, or hate (but learn from) or need in my life everyday.  Nancy wants to know if blogs do a good job with community through blogrolling.  See my intro – Nancy’s blogroll did the job for me.  She gave link love and I certainly clicked and I subscribed to more of her blogrolled blogs than I can begin to count. My new discoveries section gets a lot of clicks.  Are those clicks community indicators? Or are they something else?  We don’t really know, because we don’t usually know if the circle is somehow completed or somehow expanded.  It feels to me like they are and it is.    The blogroll is probably not the BEST community building tool, I have to agree.  But what’s better? What other options are there? Do you throw the blogroll out with the bath water? 

I just don’t know.  Do you?

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Carolina Isle

Problem #1 – Why is this book called Carolina Isle? Yes, it’s about an island off of NC (fictional island, real state) but the island is called Kings Isle. Why not name the book Kings Isle? Dumb name.

Problem #2 – The two cousins are suppose to look alike enough to be able to “swap lives”. So when RJ spotted Ariel across the room at a party, why didn’t he mention this look-alike to Sara? Weird and dumb.

Problem #3 – What the …. ? An island where the inhabitants set up tourists to fleece money out of them, ok I get that. But in such an extreme, dreamlike, unimaginable way? Give me a break.

What’s weird is I got past all three of those problems and found myself enjoying this ridiculous book – it was almost like science fiction or an episode of the Twilight Zone. Just as I’m enjoying it, and looking forward to the “mystery” resolved and the couples falling in love and stuff – BAM – cruddy ending.

I liked that the rich and spoiled and sheltered girl saved the day. Terrific. Good job. But to wrap it all up in a “1 year later” sort of way was just ridiculous. And have everything tied up, the way it was. Ack, it went from Twilight Zone (which was likeable) to Harlequin (which was ridiculous).

At some point last night I was looking forward to reading the other Jude Deveraux book that is on the shelf. Now I think I’ll just skip it. Mindless adventury/mystery/love stories I can enjoy, but when you screw up an ending that way – there are better ways to spend my time.
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Pitching My Tent

Pitching My Tent by Anita Diamont was what you would expect from the author of The Red Tent. Easy to read, lots of religious topics but the easy religion you’d expect a woman of the Jewish Reform faith. At least that I would expect – none Jew that I am.

This one won’t change your life but it was a nice read for a late Saturday night/early Sunday morning,. These stories were pulled from her newspaper and magazine columns. They feel like they were meant to be read over a cup of coffee (or tea) and chatted about with your partner or your friend.

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Michelle Tea – Fiction!

michelles.jpgIf you read the Daily Dose then you know the picture in this entry comes from the reading/signing at Wild Iris with Michelle Tea. You also know we bought Rose of No Man’s Land, Tea’s first attempt at “fiction”. I read it yesterday and loved it.

Tea said at the reading that it was hard to write fiction, compared to memoirs, I can understand that. She also said she worried that she’d written characters nobody would care about or a narrator who was so obnoxious you wouldn’t want to read the story, this I don’t understand. I thought Trisha was terrific. And Rose, ah Rose, she wasn’t bad herself.

I can totally see this as a film. A cult classic for wild and alternative teen girls. Sort of like Virgin Suicides and Thirteen. Stuff parents do not want to see because it would give them nightmares about their daughters. What it ought to give them is nightmares about what men and boys do to girls everyday and what effect that has on girls.

No, it’s not one of those male-bashing feminist books. Not really. Tea did a nice job of putting across the mesage without slamming it down your throat. And, she gave her female characters the power to deal with the BS men dish out to them. Excellent.

This isn’t going to be any adult’s favorite book of all time. The writing just isn’t that great and the story is bouncey. It might, however, become your daughter’s favorite book – if she’s a fan of The Virgin Suicides, or Thirteen or anything by Francesca Leah Block.

I look forward to Tea’s next work of fiction – well not the comic book. Maybe the further adventures of Trisha and Rose (Trisha should be on Real World, imagine THAT!) or just a story about Rose? Whatever it is, I’m pretty sure I’ll smile my way through it – just like I smiled my way through Rose of No Man’s Land.

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