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Daily Dose of Coffee – Presents

Yesterday was "Beaning Day" aka our anniversary (for those of you who prefer things "normal").  The reason it is known as "Beaning Day" is TW presented me with a gold coffee bean charm to honor the occasion of official coupledom.  (We aren’t into that gay marriage thing, in case you didn’t know that) 

The gold coffee bean was presented to me four years ago and every year on Beaning Day I am given some gift or another, generally a coffee bean related gift.  I believe last year I was given a mobile made out of a couple of sticks, some fishing line and real coffee beans (spray painted I think, though in the dark office it is hard to tell and I’m not good at remembering those sorts of things.  TW is the marshmallowy romantic around here).  E calls it the flying coffee bean because in the dark office, you can’t see the string so it looks like the beans are just hanging in the air.

Yesterday, TW gave me a candy bar.  Hershey’s Caramel Cappucino Very amusing since I’m not really a fan of chocolate.  (FYI it wasn’t all that great.  The first bite, I liked.  After that, not so much.  I saved a piece for her and she didn’t like it at all.)  The candy bar was nice and made me laugh but that wasn’t the only gift.  She’d been griping about "fonts" for awhile for my "Beaning Day" present so I figured it was another webpage or a poem or a card or something. 

So 7:30am arrives and we’re heading to Starbucks on the way to take her to work.  She gets out of the car and I see she has her backpack slung over her shoulder.  I said ummm why are you carrying your backpack into Starbucks.  She blushed and giggled and I refused to go INTO Starbucks because obviously she was about to make some sort of huge production about Beaning Day IN STARBUCKS.  She put her backpack back in the car but pulled a piece of paper out of the bag.  I still refused to go in.  She swore it wouldn’t be "bad".  I grudgingly followed.  Griping all the way.  Griping while ordering.  I see her talking to the barista and I griped some more.

I’m standing at the side counter, in my normal spot.  Griping.  Waiting for whatever it is. Griping.  When I notice the cup in front of the barista looks funny.  Ha!  Cup #524!  Ha! Very very amusing!  TW created The Way I See It #524, put it on a label and had the barista put the label on the cup.  Cup #524 is very marshmallowy and very very amusing.  I’m soooo lucky.  How many women have a Starbucks cup created just for them? 

It was a nice Beaning Day.

And since  I’m here talking about coffee, I think I’ll toss in a mini review of the Bloggers Fuel coffee we tried last weekend, Blogs of Bravery .  It wasn’t nearly as good as the New Media Mavericks but Nurse Pam (who I generally think has excellent taste) seemed to like it.  It wasn’t bad, it just wasn’t great and I wouldn’t order it again.  This weekend, Bloggers Beach Blast!   

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Daily Dose of Queer Republicans

Well, I listened to the Dr Helen/Instapundit podcast with Mary Cheney.  I wasn’t impressed.  I’m very glad I didn’t break down and order Cheney’s book when I discovered it wasn’t available at my library.  I’m not anti-gay-marriage republican, I live with one of those ya know.  I’m not pro-gay marriage, either, so I thought I might actually agree with something Mary Cheney had to say.  Or I might even appreciate her point of view.  I did agree that "there are many, many points of views regarding gay marriage".  I didn’t agree with anything else she said and I felt like she was still just giving the party line – like there was no real passion behind what she said – except maybe at the end, when she talked about her mother.  Maybe.

She and Dr Helen think it’s a shame democrats spend so much time talking about whether you’re gay or you aren’t gay.  She and Dr Helen think it isn’t important to talk about such things or acknowledge such things.  They think it just doesn’t matter if you’re gay.  They would be right – except the extreme right cares.  The extreme right cares so much that they don’t want to acknowlege gay people at all.   It’s don’t ask/don’t tell to the extreme.

Mary Cheney talked about how great her parents were when she came out.  I think that’s terrific.  Unfortunately neither of her parents have been very forthcoming with that information which leads a great many conservatives to believe they should not behave the way Mary says her parents behaved.  People learn from example Ms Cheney.  People learn acceptance by seeing it modeled.  They don’t learn it by having it swept aside, by pretending it isn’t necessary or the need doesn’t exist.   Your father hugged you and told you he loved you when you came out.  Good for you.  Wouldn’t it be nice if he felt comfortable saying that out loud, to everyone in the world?  Wouldn’t it be nice if your father, that great role model in your life, and your mother the even greater role model in your life, stepped up to the plate and became role models for an entire country?  Wouldn’t it have been terrific if you’d said that 8 years ago?  It would have been.  But now, it just feels hollow.  Maybe even untrue. Maybe just a little bit like politics.

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Daily Dose of Blogrolls

I have blogroll angst.  This isn’t some new angst that has snuck up on me.  It’s the same old angst, very similar to the angst related to "favorite links" pages in the good old days of "personal home pages".  Who do you link? Where do you link them? Why do you link them?  What happens if you decide not to link them? And, geez, why even bother with this madness?  I look at my blogroll and it’s either boring me to tears because it’s looked this way forever or I have left out someone who should be linked there or it’s just too darn unmanageable and messy and … angst.   

I thought that if I put "update blogroll" on my 101 things list I’d be able to let some of that angst go.  No more really stale blogroll, right?  Wrong.  I’ve updated it.  And updated it.  And updated it.  I got annoyed and pulled most of it down and put up links to the Blogher topic areas and the cute little Technorati favorite blogs widget.  I thought that would reduce my angst.  Nope, I think I have more angst about it. 

Along comes my hero, (and yours), Nancy White and she drops a mini bombshell… she’s thinking about getting rid of her blogroll completely! Wah! No! She can’t!  Umm wait, why can’t she?

Well she can’t because I often peruse her blogroll and find really interesting online community blogs that I either would never have found before or would have taken me time that I don’t have to search out – which means, I would never have found them because I’m too busy to do my own searching.  Nancy’s blogroll is my tool!  If it’s gone, I lose a valuable tool.  And, it’s all about me.  It’s also all about other people who I know use Nancy’s blogroll in much the same way.  It’s community building, darn it. 

But that’s really not enough of a reason, probably.  I don’t have the type of blogroll Nancy does but I do know a lot of people click the blogs on my blogroll.  I peek at the out clicks once a week and the "new discoveries" in particular get a lot of clicks.  If my new discoveries section disappeared, would I be participating actively in creating a community of bloggers?  Questions, questions, questions.

I’ve been asking myself some blogroll related questions and I posed them to Nancy.  She has replied so I’m going to answer the questions too.  I would love it if others who have blogroll angst could answer or could respond or could add your two cents.  If you have solved your blogroll issues, I’d love to hear your solution.  It may not work for me, but I’m interested anyway.  It’s my sort of "thing".

1) why do you have a blogroll? Duh, that’s what bloggers do!  That is exactly why I created a blogroll to start with.  It was very small, maybe 5 blogs that I adored and 5 links to other websites.  That was it.  But then, it grew.  Because I fell in love with more blogs and more bloggers.  I want people to look at my blog and see those blogs linked as an extension of me.  They are part of me, in some way.  A reflection of who I am and what is important or confusing or special to me.

2) what do you hope to gain or provide by having a blogroll and is that working for you?  I’ve gained a few things, I think, from the blogroll.  See that first part.  People can look at my blogroll (or they could before I ditched it in favor of technorati and blogher) and see something about me.  They could click away, to other blogs and I hope they would understand that those people are important to my life.  I learn from them, am entertained by them and sometimes worry over them.  The second part, that’s the tougher part.  Does anyone even look at blogrolls anymore?  Do you see my favorite blogs over there and see them as an extension of me or as important in my world?  Probably not.  And that’s the real problem.  They’re like banner ads or text ads or simply too darn big to really be useful.

3) why are you thinking about doing away with it?  Too big.  Too unmanageable.  Or not inclusive enough or simply not worth the space they are taking up because people don’t seem to really look at them anymore.

4) what would you do instead? (if anything) That’s the thing – I don’t know.  Nancy mentions linking to faves in blog entries and I’m all for that but who has time?  And, it’s sooo easy to write a blog, link to one of the same 6 bloggers over and over and over again.  I don’t want to fall into that sort of a trap.  I also don’t want to leave my favorite, top 6, out.  Ya know?  (I’m interested in Grazr.  It’s been on my list of things to look at but haven’t.  I’ve considered sticking my feed link up there but I don’t think enough people are interested in clicking those at this point.  Too many people don’t even understand what RSS is much less have a reader…)

5) you care about community and providing link love, I know you do, so how can you let go of that blogroll and still provide the love?  See the first answers to figure this one out.  The blogroll is all about community for me.  I link to those I love, or hate (but learn from) or need in my life everyday.  Nancy wants to know if blogs do a good job with community through blogrolling.  See my intro – Nancy’s blogroll did the job for me.  She gave link love and I certainly clicked and I subscribed to more of her blogrolled blogs than I can begin to count. My new discoveries section gets a lot of clicks.  Are those clicks community indicators? Or are they something else?  We don’t really know, because we don’t usually know if the circle is somehow completed or somehow expanded.  It feels to me like they are and it is.    The blogroll is probably not the BEST community building tool, I have to agree.  But what’s better? What other options are there? Do you throw the blogroll out with the bath water? 

I just don’t know.  Do you?

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Pitching My Tent

Pitching My Tent by Anita Diamont was what you would expect from the author of The Red Tent. Easy to read, lots of religious topics but the easy religion you’d expect a woman of the Jewish Reform faith. At least that I would expect – none Jew that I am.

This one won’t change your life but it was a nice read for a late Saturday night/early Sunday morning,. These stories were pulled from her newspaper and magazine columns. They feel like they were meant to be read over a cup of coffee (or tea) and chatted about with your partner or your friend.

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Daily Dose of Blogs

I don’t knit, so why do I have Spin Cycle saved in my Evernote?  Probably because the yarn is pretty and the pictures are nice and, well, I don’t know.  Why do I have this blog saved? 

Here’s another oddity – I don’t do men, in case you hadn’t noticed.  But for some reason, I have Twisted Chili saved in my Evernote.  Probably because of the vasectomy posts.  It’s rare to see a man blog vasectomy, isn’t it?  Or maybe I just don’t read many men’s blogs? 

Now this one, this one I know about.  TW found it yesterday while surfing Osteo blogs for me.  Nuns. I like nuns.  A lot.  No surprise there, eh?  Grace-full Thoughts is more than Grace-full.  It’s funny.  And interesting.  And did I mention, it’s written by a nun? Well I guess, she’s actually a monk.  But she seems like a nun. And I like nuns!  Even is she does seem to have a problem with pasteurization, in fact she’s sort of passionate about this and that doesn’t seem very nun-like.   Which I dig, quite a bit.  Weston A Price, I have issues with but nuns with passion, that’s all good 

Ummm are there any other blogs by nuns?  If you are reading a nun blog, could you share the link, please.  I don’t want anymore blogs about vasectomy, one is more than enough.  But nuns, the more the merrier.

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Daily Dose of Cupcake Toppers

barrel.jpgSomeone was searching for monkey cupcake toppers so I thought I’d help with that today (besides, I like monkeys – particularly red-headed ones!). It’s hard to find just monkey cupcake toppers. It’s easy to find zoo animal toppers but not a package of just monkeys. So let’s ad-lib a little, ok? Why not use Barrel of Monkeys instead? Buy a barrel (or two) and put one monkey on each cupcake! Then buy the tiny keychain sized version to use as party favors. (You could retrieve the big monkeys from the cupcakes, wash them and give them to the birthday child if you like.)

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